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School-aged children face plenty of new challenges as they develop. Along with these challenges come successes and failures and all the emotions that go along with that. One day your children may be on top of the world – they have a good day at school, get along with siblings and have a good time after school with their friends. However, the next day, they are moody and sullen because of one thing that went wrong.
Methods of Discipline
There are many different things that children encounter every day that can affect a child’s self-esteem. How a child feels about how well they belong in their world, as well as their feeling of self-worth can be influenced by even the smallest thing. Main factors that contribute to how a child is feeling is how the child is nurtured, as well as his or her nature. Self-esteem typically rises and falls all the time – sometimes daily but sometimes even hourly. It is important for parents to understand this in order to help guide their children through the ups and downs.
1. One helpful strategy for parents is to teach your child the social skills he or she requires to meet people, make friends, including how to introduce him or herself to others, how to start up a conversation and how to join in play in a polite way.
2. Get your child involved in extracurricular activities at a young age. Find out what he or she is good at and enjoys doing so that he or she feels very comfortable in the situation.
3. Model good interpersonal skills for your child. He or she watches your every move so keep that in mind during social situations.
4. Another method to help your child overcome self-esteem issues is to talk to your child about how you see them acting when he or she is around friends. Obviously you do not want to embarrass your child so you need to do this tactfully. Wait until you are home alone with your child and bring up a specific behavior you observed. Be sure to talk through how that behavior may have come across to his or her friend and offer some suggestions on how the child could have acted.
5. Give your child the opportunity to talk to you about any concerns he or she may have about making friends when you are discussing your day.
Helping your child cope
There are many things parents can do for children who have low self-esteem or are struggling with esteem issues. First off, reassure him or her that you love and respect him or her. Make home a safe place to allow your child to act authentically and receive unconditional love. Listen to what your child has to say, encourage him or her to express feelings and opinions. Also, nurture your child’s interests and what he or she is good at. Respond positively when your child does something well or at least makes an effort to try something new. On the opposite side, be sure to support your child when he or she faces failure. Help him or her understand what has happened. If the child does something wrong, explain what he or she has done that was wrong, instead of making the child figure it out. Above all, encourage open communication with your child. Give them the opportunity to come to you as a parent, and talk about what is bothering him or her, then give some suggestions as to help your child deal with the situation.